The problem with "special wishes" is that road never ends.. If you spend all your time focusing on what every single person wants, you'll swamp yourself and end up as "just another wayward dev who mysteriously disappeared"...
The special request and kink BS should come AFTER the main game is done (or if nothing else, a very minor sideproject you work on just for fun), that way you don't squander precious time that could be spent showing you and your game's potential, instead of desperately reaching out to give as many people a metaphorical handjob as possible.. You don't have enough hands or time in the day, lady..
Just remember..
75% - Normal people who want a hentai game, and will give you patreon money to see it happen
15% - People with kinks who are too shy/humble to ask you for something, who'll pay even more money if they see their kink in there.
10% - Entitled kink-loving assholes who will assault you with questions and requests who might even pay more money, but who's kinks are rare or annoyingly specific
Now let's say this is a percentage of 1000 people, the 75% giving 10$ each, the 15% giving 20$, and the 10% giving 50$.. Do the math..
Is it really worth blowing your load too quick just to satisfy the 10%, and then being too tired and worn out to rake in whatever the 75% can provide?
... Only if you actually willingly plan on bailing part-way through, and just want to pad your nest-egg much quicker. And don't use the "I got bills to pay" excuse..Until you've got a much bigger solid build out and about, a lot of people are going to see your potential success as a mere coin flip.. People are more likely to invest money, after they've invested trust.
Or hey, maybe I'm wrong and the world's full of gullible idiots with large flabby wallets and you'll have 500$ a day by the end of febuary and still not have a full alpha build out yet.... Stranger things have happened. *remembers that wierd furry fan-character encounter from undertale*