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How has hentai benefited you in real life?

How has hentai benefited you in real life?

  • No benefit, it’s ruining my life and I shouldn’t be here!

    Votes: 4 6.9%
  • Companionship: makes me feel better about myself

    Votes: 5 8.6%
  • Given me... pleasure ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

    Votes: 33 56.9%
  • Taught me skills I can use in real life.

    Votes: 11 19.0%
  • Dunno lol, I’m just in it for some fun <3

    Votes: 11 19.0%
  • Other benefit?

    Votes: 20 34.5%

  • Total voters
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(Originally posted in the general hentai thread. Also added a poll.)

How have your interests in porn and hentai benefited you in real life? It’s not a question that tends to get asked, I suspect mainly because the assumed answer is that it’s NOT beneficial to be interested in porn. It’s a seedy, clandestine pastime, very rarely something people are proud of, and never spoken about except in hushed tones on the internet, and even then almost always under the protective guise of anonymity. It carries connotations of escapism: that you’re such a failure at life at being able to pick up real girls that you need to resort to your own personal fantasies to fulfill one of man’s basest biological needs. And I used to think that way, until very recently, an IRL experience made me see things slightly differently, and I'd like to see how many people feel the same way.

WARNING: SMALL WALL OF PERSONAL TEXT INCOMING

The short answer is that I fell in love with a girl I know. I’ll spare you the finer details but basically, I found myself thinking about her, very often. Imagining us together. Imagining our future. Imagining us enjoying life, growing old together, and enjoying the journey as we lived it out. Having been in love before I know from past experiences that I would normally have reacted to this like most other guys would have in this situation – become a confused wreck. I’d totally lose my cool. My priorities in life would be radically refocused towards her, no matter if I had other super-important stuff going on. I’d want to speak to her. To be with her. To take it further. Know everything about her. I’d want to call her 24/7, you know, just to let her know how I feel. When they weren’t completely weirded out and would respond, I’d be a blubbering mess. And if they hadn’t responded in time because, you know, they’ve actually GOT a life and are busy with something else, I’d call them UNTIL they responded to my blubbering mess. Incoherent. Not smooth. Unfocused. And never mind trying to be attractive or advance any notion of a “relationship” – hell, it’d be a job just to get a grain of sense out of me in that state of mind.

Needless to say, such behaviour is not attractive. Clinginess is not attractive. And such a chaotic obsession with that other person that completely decentralises who you are just makes you look like you’ve more issues than most reasonably well-adjusted people would bother with. No, what you’re supposed to be is ice-cool. Aloof. NOT a romanticist. At least not in the early stages of the game anyways. Not when you’ve not done enough to show the girl you’re someone worth loving, and preferably not before you’ve accumulated enough evidence to suggest that there is at least a CHANCE that she might be tempted to reciprocate. Because, yes, that’s what cultivating attraction is, I think. A game. A tricky interaction that you need to manage, with the utmost caution and precision. This isn’t to say you CAN’T love the person, I think. You can – but you must be careful about how and when you show it. You must be in total control. And paradoxically, while it probably feels like your number 1 priority in this world, YOU MUST NOT ACT LIKE YOU GIVE A FUCK. This is because being alpha MEANS not giving a fuck. You do not give a fuck, because it subtly implies that you’ve LISTS of suitors you can pick from if that one person rejects you. That’s the truth of attraction, I think: the self-assurance, the acting like you’re so alpha can have anyone ELSE, or anyTHING. And there, my friends, is where hentai comes in to play. My present self feels self-assured enough that I do not need to rely on this one person to fulfill my companionship needs, simply because I have access, at will, to a bevy of perfect girls that would fulfill all those needs and probably a few more – albeit none of these other girls are real.
What I am essentially saying is that hentai fulfills my basic need for human companionship. It also fulfills the need for sex. Yes, there, I said it. Sex. Culturally almost always a taboo topic. But so ingrained into our biological impulses that to deny it will probably more than likely make you spontaneously implode under the pressure. And for me, after I got over the societal taboo, I think it made me a lot more able to enjoy myself. To be satisfied that, actually, it’s fine to fap. It’s fine to enjoy your fetishes. To enjoy eroge. Or H-games. Or sprite sex. Or watching those adorable little things losing themselves in throes of unrestrained pleasure as they... you get the point, I think! I now feel fine in fulfilling those needs in this way. And I feel this self-assuredness has done wonders in sharpening my interactions with the opposite sex. I am able to pull back. I am able to speak to them normally. I no longer have my brain too occupied with the thought of “relationships” when I speak to someone I love. And I no longer feel that the prospect of it “not working out” is a threat because I can fall back into my harem at will any time I so choose. And when it comes down to doing the dirty, I can make like I’m a complete VETERAN even though I’m a virgin who hasn’t romantically kissed anyone all his life. Sure, I’d probably sound like a Z-list eroge scriptwriter dropout, but I’d at least be able to carry myself with an air of confidence that comes with thinking about it every time you fap! Again, yes, the real life experience is different, as media representations of things always go, but allowing yourself space to think about sex on a regular basis, if nothing else, has the effect of demystifying it. It helps you consider your preferences and make you aware of what turns you on, and how you might consider balancing that against a real partner who might well come with completely different ideas to yours.

You might at this point question the wisdom of what I am doing. Staving off an IRL relationship with virtual porn? Trying to satisfy a lust for a real girl with an imaginary character? Thinking you can learn about sex by reading eroge? Doesn’t this feed into the escapism argument all over again? To which the answer, probably, is yes. Well, then you should stop doing it - it can’t be healthy to enable yourself in this way! Ahh, now this is where I’d beg to differ. Obviously I can only speak from personal experience - but I’d argue that the benefits of being allowed this outlet to discover myself, as an assurance of a fail-safe should my IRL endeavours fall to ruin, far outweigh the risks of what you are trying to hint at. There is of course the danger of confusing fantasy and reality, and I fully accept that. Indeed, I think this is the chief reason why porn should remain age-restricted, no matter how liberal your culture is. But I’d hope anyone who browses porn is able to tell the differences, and certainly, I feel I’ve enough life experience outside of porn to be able to form a relative balance of the two. And I suppose this feeds into the wider question of, as 4chan put it, whether 2D is superior to 3DPD. To which I’d argue that associating 2D with negative associations of escapism that’s “unhealthy” or “bad” is a flawed premise as well. Shakespeare’s plays and Greek Classics like Homer’s Iliad are taught in schools to kids in hopes that it’ll teach them more about human behaviour – and you don’t hear anyone accusing them of fostering “escapism” very often! Personally, I feel, as long as you include the proviso of being able to distinguish fantasy from reality, it’s really trying to compare apples and oranges – two very different things that fulfil very different needs. And as long as you’re able to do this – and, for the record, no one can really tell you whether or not you can but your own honest self – to my fellow lovers of porn at ULMF, I’d say, fap on~

tl;dr: I think it’s stupid that everyone thinks that porn is bad. Accepting the fact that I like to fap has increased my confidence and taught me lifeskills whose reach extends far beyond the strengthening of my right forearm muscles. I’d like to know if you guys and girls think the same, and if so, in what way?
 

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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

Anyone that thinks porn is bad is an idiot. Plain and simple, no caveats, no ifs, and no buts.

Anyone that SAYS porn is bad is either an idiot or has an agenda.

That aside... when you write 4 paragraphs to justify the amount of porn/masturbation that you do, I'm not sure it's healthy at that point. Could be wrong though.
 

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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

It has given me many bad porno texts to send to people who havent seen hentai

"Yes, pregnate my butt!"
And it never ceases to amuse them*

*As long as I don't overdo it
 
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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

Why is this always wisdom? To act like you don't give a fuck about someone and try and manipulate them in a way to like you back, and then be an alpha, and be some big shot. Sounds like that start of a path to a manipulative relationship to me. Especially if you can't even act like yourself around them.

Confidence does not mean brushing them off. It does not mean acting like you don't care about them to draw them in. Sure it works. Guess on who? The shallow ones. The ones that wanna change their bad boy or the ones that think you got a great ass.

Porn is fucking porn. It's (sometimes) naked folks fucking, its nice to look at and enjoy. Maybe its the folks I hang out with and work with? We openly chat about porn, we've shared porn. It's not a bad thing, it's just a thing. Most people enjoy seeing other naked people. Simple as that. Couples watch porn together, single folks watch it, folks in relationships watch it on their own. You don't need to justify it by saying it's there to help you be this big alpha male.
 
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Hentai/porn helps me get rid of my pseudo-phimosis, it makes me train/stretch my foreskin constantly. Meaning, it benefits me physiologically! :eek:
 
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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

Why is this always wisdom? To act like you don't give a fuck about someone and try and manipulate them in a way to like you back, and then be an alpha, and be some big shot. Sounds like that start of a path to a manipulative relationship to me. Especially if you can't even act like yourself around them.

Confidence does not mean brushing them off. It does not mean acting like you don't care about them to draw them in. Sure it works. Guess on who? The shallow ones. The ones that wanna change their bad boy or the ones that think you got a great ass.
Manipulation is not the word I’d use for what I’m doing. Manipulating suggests you are deliberately trying to deceive someone in the hopes of getting them to do what you want. While I admit I did say I am acting in a way that I would not normally have done, I don’t think it’s in a way that is contrary to my very nature. Because I sure do hope that I am on at least some level an “alpha” (read: confident, authoritative, commanding, possibly sexy too) – and indeed to those who would think they shouldn’t be that way because “that’s not their true self”, it’s worth pointing out that they’re not bad traits to be, or at least aspire to!

It’s a small distinction, but it’s one that needs to be made. The “be yourself” counterargument, which yourself and many others typically use against this, is... while well-intentioned and sensible in some respects, is just flawed and untenable as a primary guiding principle for the most part. Say you’re speaking to someone who has only known life as a shy, introverted social outcast, who suddenly wants to start a relationship. He sees a girl he likes. How does he approach her? What is his “true self”? Blurt straight out, oh you seem really nice and you’ve got a nice rack. Wanna go back to mine and I’ll teach you the basics of D&D? Because, unless someone’s developed some level of skill in human social interaction, that’s probably the only thing that would be going through his mind!

Worth also adding one final caveat to my argument: “being yourself” probably makes more sense when you’re in a committed relationship. That’s when it becomes more reasonable to expect someone else to tolerate your unchangeable faults. But I’ve only met this person twice, and in as far I can see that hasn’t happened. And of course, the way people think when they’re flirting is completely different to when they’re with someone they’ve sworn to spend their life with.


Porn is fucking porn. It's (sometimes) naked folks fucking, its nice to look at and enjoy. Maybe its the folks I hang out with and work with? We openly chat about porn, we've shared porn. It's not a bad thing, it's just a thing. Most people enjoy seeing other naked people. Simple as that. Couples watch porn together, single folks watch it, folks in relationships watch it on their own. You don't need to justify it by saying it's there to help you be this big alpha male.
You’re lucky. You sound like you’ve established the social circles and fallen into the cultural norms that enable people to actively ventilate their feelings about love and sex in a way that helps them mature openly and properly. But not everyone is that lucky. And while I don’t have anything but my own subjective judgement to back this up, I don’t think that’s the norm. In most social circles it’s censored and I begin to wonder if people’s sexual maturity ends up being stunted. Porn was the one outlet that I had to think about this, and in a society where the topic of sex is so pervasive in the media, I think that might have done me some favours.
 

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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

Why is this always wisdom? To act like you don't give a fuck about someone and try and manipulate them in a way to like you back, and then be an alpha, and be some big shot. Sounds like that start of a path to a manipulative relationship to me. Especially if you can't even act like yourself around them.

Confidence does not mean brushing them off. It does not mean acting like you don't care about them to draw them in. Sure it works. Guess on who? The shallow ones. The ones that wanna change their bad boy or the ones that think you got a great ass.

Porn is fucking porn. It's (sometimes) naked folks fucking, its nice to look at and enjoy. Maybe its the folks I hang out with and work with? We openly chat about porn, we've shared porn. It's not a bad thing, it's just a thing. Most people enjoy seeing other naked people. Simple as that. Couples watch porn together, single folks watch it, folks in relationships watch it on their own. You don't need to justify it by saying it's there to help you be this big alpha male.
Hey, you're the ones that made up the rules, we had no say in the matter, well none since the 1900s. Our choices are: Be rich, get ripped, or be manipulative.

Of course everyone tends to have unreasonably high expectations of others when it comes to dating and relationships. WE'RE all damaged goods.
 

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I've developed a deeper appreciation for art, thanks to porn. It's aesthetic qualities and seedy expectations really free it to explore interesting subjects, when it's not just trying to titillate. Some no-holds-barred "holy shit! that's really interesting."
 

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Hey, you're the ones that made up the rules, we had no say in the matter, well none since the 1900s. Our choices are: Be rich, get ripped, or be manipulative.

Of course everyone tends to have unreasonably high expectations of others when it comes to dating and relationships. WE'RE all damaged goods.
Because women's only choices are to be physically alluring, giggle like an idiot with agreement, or be subservient and quiet?

I can throw around assumptions and generalizations too.
 

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I'm just happy my dick doesn't bleed once a month


just every other
 
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I literally make money making hentaistuff, so this discussion may not be for me, but I also would claim that erotic roleplaying and later gamewriting has near-perfected my grasp on the english language as a secondary language for me.

As for the discussion of what gender is off better/worse.. well, if I had the choice of living longer, but having my junk bleed/Getting pregnant, getting stuff for free vs not having to spent hours to get my hair/look/clothes right, .. eh, its honestly a toss up. Both genders have advantages and disadvantages, unreasonable expectations and stereotypes, Give the SJW a few more decades, see if I change my opinion then.
 

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I dont feel that I have really benefited or been effected negatively by it to be honest. More often then not it is just a boredom reliever. I will say that a lot of times I feel the "benefit" is more sensual than sexual as I don't see myself having sex anytime soon due to my awkwardness around women as well as my mind looking at sex logically and thinking about the grossness of the physiological aspect of it (blood, bodily fluids and functions and etc- it kind of turns me off of the act IRL). Jacking off has become more of a matter of seeking endorphins and dopamine. Especially of I'm upset, tired, or the likes. Though I guess I could achieve the same effect by exercise, but am lazy. :eek: So in short, I guess its more of a harmless time killer in my opinion than anything. Though I guess one negative aspect of it could be argued it gives those of us who are virgins an unrealistic ideal or expectation of sex. Iunno. :shrug:
 

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Because women's only choices are to be physically alluring, giggle like an idiot with agreement, or be subservient and quiet?

I can throw around assumptions and generalizations too.
Physically alluring: Honestly unless they're ungodly obese or horrifically deformed most guys will quote 'hit it'.

Giggle: Short of radical feminism (misandry, dick chopping and the like), it's all just noise. And even then a good gag will take care of that problem.

Subservient and quite: YES PLEASE! Got me there, who wouldn't want their very own fuckable pet?

You do realize it's my job to piss off swolf, right? See my stance change from 'Op's a little bit wonky' to 'It's all women's fault' between my first and second posts for proof!
 
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I can't make heads or tails or whatever the fuck you're saying but the white text really doesn't help you.
 

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Tell me what you don't comprehend and I'll see if I can help?
 

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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

Because women's only choices are to be physically alluring, giggle like an idiot with agreement, or be subservient and quiet?

I can throw around assumptions and generalizations too.
Not really. Some guys like dominant women. In fact, over in the hypno community, submissive guys make up the VAST majority of the population. Some guys like smart women, and guys like funny women; really, any personality that isn't "screeching psychopath" probably has a fairly sizable chunk of guys who are interested.

I believe what Slicer is indicating is that our society has made it that the general rules of engagement are such that, assuming an average level of attractiveness on both sides, men have to prove their worth to a woman; either through wealth, physical achievements, possession of unique skills or talents, or by making the woman THINK they have those things. The woman, meanwhile, generally only needs to pick who she likes best out of the men who come to her.

You can even see it on dating sites. A woman with below average looks still gets more messages on average than even a guy with above average looks. It's pretty much accepted throughout modern society that men put themselves out there to be judged, and women do the judging.

That is probably going to change though; as more women are starting to approach guys they are interested in, and some women who don't like being approached are starting to object to the current system of men needing to approach women. I have my fingers crossed that we are able to reach an equilibrium and hold it there, and don't end up swinging like a pendulum to the opposite problem.
 

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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

really, any personality that isn't "screeching psychopath" probably has a fairly sizable chunk of guys who are interested.
Betcha I can find someone with that fetish.

I have my fingers crossed that we are able to reach an equilibrium and hold it there, and don't end up swinging like a pendulum to the opposite problem.
evolutionary psychology makes this unlikely though.
 

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I voted it gave me pleasure ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Now my erections won't stop, Jacking off 4 times a day is normal they say. >.>
 
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Re: How has hentai benefited you in real life?

Betcha I can find someone with that fetish.
Oh but of course~ Haven't you heard of the Yandere and Yangire? <3

evolutionary psychology makes this unlikely though.
But how do you know? Society is different today. Women are actually able to speak out, and in most cases not be treated like a complete freak because of it. While I expect the balance will remain skewed towards men being "dominant" simply because that's how it's always been in most traditional cultures, there is nothing to say that there will be a percentage of women who will be able to choose a way of life by denying their biology (whatever that means) through sheer force of will.
 

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Oh but of course~ Haven't you heard of the Yandere and Yangire? <3

But how do you know? Society is different today. Women are actually able to speak out, and in most cases not be treated like a complete freak because of it. While I expect the balance will remain skewed towards men being "dominant" simply because that's how it's always been in most traditional cultures, there is nothing to say that there will be a percentage of women who will be able to choose a way of life by denying their biology (whatever that means) through sheer force of will.
It's really about hormones not just culture, higher testosterone means higher sex drive, more estrogen less sex drive. Woman who have more testosterone than the average female are usualy horny as a guy. Don't get me wrong culture is still a thing in this. But hormones do play a huge role in the behavior as well.
 
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