Re: Would you date a herm?
I'm going to throw my lot in with Crawdaddy and super_slicer. I believe the term one would use to describe the sentiment as "Gynesexual". And adding to what Craw said about herms in reality, the few that do exist, do thanks to a mistake in their chromosomes that can cause severe health and social issues. Generally in this modern day and age they're just converted into one of the two sexes, and live mostly with the health repercussions. It's really quite sad, like most serious congenital diseases.
Oddly enough, I don't think I'd date a post-op trans person, but I would date a pre-op if she was willing to avoid the surgery during our relationship. I have no issues at all with trans people, but I think the gender reassignment surgery is highly dubious in it's current format, and call me ignorant, but it's just way past my comfort zone. The stuff that makes you feel and live like a the other gender are the hormone blockers and estrogen anyways, right? Genitals are ultimately just (a) slightly creepy flop(s) of meat that send out hormones as a secondary function, the primary function being easily reproduced via an alternate route, right?I'm talking about sex. Also anal.