I know I'm late in the discussion but here's what I've seen so far.
People against GOR think it's counter-intuitive to the idea of making a porn game. People for GOR think that the GOR aspect actually adds another layer of gameplay to it.
To be honest, I'm for GOR. If you play the game fighting your inner demons( should I let this monster have it's way with me and lose my progress or keep going), that's another layer of thought added. Also, GOR is good because you dont feel like shit for losing. You lose, so what, here's a cool adult scene. You win... guess what, you got the satisfaction of progression and being able to experience more of the game. It's a win-win. I also, don't get the argument, about sex having to be in all aspects of the game. Seems like you just want sex with a game on it... rather than a game with sex on it. I personally would want a game with sex on it. (I mean how would the latter even work... you play the game with your pants down and whenever sex happens you fap?) Can't it just be something you enjoy watching and fap to when you feel like it? If it can, then why does it need to permeate everything.
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I'm starting to see this as just a matter of preference honestly. When I played eroico I'd play for the game and was just happy to see that the sex was a part of it... So the H-Game community is now even more fragmented.