Re: (OOC) DnD: Unchained Out of Character Chat
You don't lose any capability of fighting back when the sexing happens, other than disadvantage. The person being attacked doesn't have to make a choice one way or another, they will only suffer the disadvantage. So the problem of being helpless as you mentioned doesn't exist.
Because it varies from monster to monster, the DC for the effect is also lower since it's a free effect. So even someone unathletic and non acrobatic can still reliably dodge say, a goblin's violate DC of 11. And if she doesn't, then come her turn she can still fight back. She'll just have to deal with a goblin attached to her, doing things to her.
I can't really do it the LoB way here, Ranger, because that system of combat takes way too long. Every single monster engaged in a grapple both renders the victim helpless, and can take several turns for them to actually do something. The monster will either ensure the player can never take their turn and cause the snowballing Grave is afraid of, or they'll just die because it just takes so long for anything to happen. I don't want to make the PC helpless when under these effects because I believe that being rendered helpless under such circumstances would only be tolerable if we were in a live session where you don't have to wait that long to be free. Whereas in a session like this, you can wait 2+ days to actually give input.
As a final note, having the rape only happen on loss means there's no need for any of the sex mechanics I listed with trauma in the first place. And it's more of a personal issue I have with rape on loss as well, I think it's an idea that's been done to death and back and I just don't find it appealing. Because in such games I either never see it or getting it is as much of a hassle as it is a good thing. On one hand, horray there's smut. On the other, gameovers suck. I don't believe mixing in the erotic content with the failure status makes for good enjoyment of the erotic content. Especially if you never see it. So, I'm not gonna sway much on the issue of rape during combat.