Bondage Corner

[aika]

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I would prefer there was a commited relationship behind every sexual escapade, but our sexual lust doesn't always work that way.

Therefore I simply endeavour to only engage in sexual acts with others myself when in a relationship. Which has so far worked.

 

[Courage Wolf]

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its not that there wrong (and the only reason i had respect for drunk college students before was because i used to pick fights with them for shits and some of them hit really hard, i hit harder =D ) one night stands let people get that fix but i think too many people spend way too much time looking for one night stands and not holding out for the one person who makes them whole. I mean so much effort is put into to getting into someones pants solely for the reason of getting some when the time could be better spent. Far be it from me to tell other people wht is right and wrong, opinions are just opinions. but as an asshole i find that the only opinions i think that matter are my own unless they come from friends (which i consider all of you in some strange forumy friendyshippy kinda way) now i must get back to work b4 i am fired

 

[ToxicShock]

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But for the people who do hold out and have been so, it's healthy to delve into that world once in a while? Cuz that's really the situation I'm trying to portray

 

[Courage Wolf]

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that's really up to the person. in my case id only ever allowed myself to have sex 5 times over the course of my entire life (im 20 now) and all of them were with people i was in a relation with at the time. it's certainly healthy and some would argue wht i did was very unhealthy from a mental and hormonal standpoint. BUT if it did anything it reminded me that sex at that time was not only unimportant (to me) but that other things along those same lines like money or possessions were also ultimately insubstantial in the grand scheme of my life. Of all the kids ive ever known ive never met another whose dream was to find someone other than family who loved them dearly and to raise a family, not firefighter, not astronaut, just loved. and im sure most of that has something to do with my childhood which without going into detail was jsut unpleasant on a multitude of levels. as far as having sex to fulfill the need (which is very real) i see no problem. BUT!! having sex like that as a substitute for a real human connection or for recognition in my opinion is the worst case of self delusion. sorry if i was unclear.

 

[Gatorbait]

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Ok, not to break your debate (I have no problemwith it ^_^) but I have some bondage news heh heh.

Yesterday I was trying out some new ties after work. It was not like a whole session, I had just found some techniques I wanted to try online. One of which was a cinch for your wrists. It didn't work for me too good but I had fun. It's always cool (for me at least) when the rope marks stay for a little bit after...

Anyway, I told you that story to tell you this one. I went with a couple co-workers to a little bar last night. We go there on a semi-regular basis so a couple of the bartenders and a few of the waiting staff all know us. So I was wearing a sweater, thinking that with the low light and the long sleeves, no one would notice the rope marks on my wrists.

Well I went to the restroom as some point and I ran into Carrie, one of the barmaids. Later on that evening I found myself alone at the bar for a few minutes. I think my co-workers had gone off the the bathroom themselves or something... Anyway, she had mentioned she saw the marks while I was washing my hands asked me what they were.

I was at first really scared that she thought maybe something bad was up. But she explained that she had tried bondage once or twice and she wanted to know how experienced I was. So I told her that most of my stuff is self bondage but the principles are mostly the same. We talked for a little bit about it until the others returned. However, I ended up setting up a little how-to session with her this weekend! She is on call to bar tend tonight, but if she's available, she is going to come over and we'll go over some things. I'm so excited! I've never tied a woman up before...

I'll let you guys and gals know how it goes! And sorry fellas, its not going to be sexual, just a how-to

 

[ToxicShock]

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Awesome to know. SPREAD THE KNOWLEDGE GATOR!

 

[dogstile]

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and not everyone here is completely sex mad...

 

[Gatorbait]

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Sorry dog, I guess I underestimated some of y'all hehe.

I never heard from her, so I assume she had to go bar tend. That or she got cold feet...

 

[lurker]

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hehehe, poor gator, I was wanting to hear it escalate ^,^;

 

[Gatorbait]

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Well a couple of us are going to the bar after work tomorrow, so hopefully I can ask Carrie then.

 

[Courage Wolf]

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always fun to find other people who are interested in bondage

 

[dogstile]

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aye, it is

*curse's lack of self confidence and low libido*

 

[Courage Wolf]

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go punch people you'll feel better about your self confidence

 

[Gatorbait]

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So Carrie and I met today after I got off work. I met her over at her place because she felt more comfortable doing it there. We started with the basics: Cinches, loops, etc. and then moved up from there. She didn't feel comfortable with any actual restraint this time around, mostly she said because she wanted to "Understand the ties" better first. Completely understandable in my opinion. I left her with a basic Shibari tie with what I call a "crotch braid" since I don't know the actual term. Its kinda like how you braid long hair. Then it goes through the crotch so that wne you struggle it rubs in "just that special way." haha.

She is supposed to try it out and let me know how it goes thenext time I see her.

 

[Courage Wolf]

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awesome

 

[dogstile]

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go punch people you'll feel better about your self confidence

only if i punch people who are weedier than me

maybe i should tie them up first...

 

[Diagasvesle]

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A bully once try to hit me. I got into a fight. I fought dirty and aimed for his nuts. Let's say people don't take kindly to being attack in the genitals he went after mine. Thank god a teacher appeared and broke up the fight. I fear for my precious. Anyway, bullying someone in bondage is S&M! GO DO IT!

 

[Courage Wolf]

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bullies are easy just dislocate a shoulder and they turn into a wimpering ball of wuss i could never punch someone id already tied up its too unfair it goes against every code of self conduct ive ever held myself by. so s&m is a no go for me

 

[Kusanagi]

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Someone went to hit me in 10th grade, I just instinctively leaned left and back, onto my right foot, and brought my arm up to block... well, he got closer than he should have, and got his teeth rattled. I didn't even realize I had socked him until a couple seconds after he didn't move, as it all happened within the span of a second or two. Luckily the teacher came in before anything else happened, and carted the asshole off, since he WAS kinda a known trouble-maker. I heard when the teacher got back the kid had to go to the nurses because his bottom lip/jaw/where-I-hit had started to bleed inside his mouth. Didn't mean to do that, but I guess he learned not to do that shit to me
I honestly don't even know why he went to hit me. I guess he didn't like how I looked or something.

And yeah, S&M and bullying - while I can see where you'd draw similarities - are two different things. S&M is definitely NOT just bullying someone while they're tied up
/ruin joke

 

[Nunu]

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no my penis is bigger!