Re: Hate Thread
Yeah, that's the spark i was talking about. For example, if it starts while you're trying to explain something, it might be triggered by a common behavior you have while speaking, she might feel like you are trying to teach her, which may give her an inferiority feeling, which may trigger a state insecurity, which may trigger a reaction. In a state of inner tranquility this whole process is born and dies in an instant, if one is tense though, there might be other problems or she might have had a bad day, it might trigger a little outburst, she makes a sarcastic joke because that puts her back on top by weakening your standpoint and granting her a little form of satisfaction, by breaking your self-confidence she consolidate hers(everyone does that, aware or not), she probably doesn't do it on purpose, probably couldn't stop it and feels a little guilty the moment after(depending on her level of stress and how much of that stress is your fault), but she's human, doesn't matter how much mature she think she is or how hard she wants to be, everyone has a breaking point. That's when you decide if it's worth it to take the challenge, usually it's worth it, mostly because if you let things build up too much the explosion could kill you(see these kind of things in the news a lot).
I don't know you, so it's more of a wild guess than a suggestion, but she probably needs a little more complicity from your side, humans are insecure beings and most commonly tend to drift toward a seclusion state in order to shield themselves from all the "bad things", you can't force their shell open without a traumatic event, words don't work, you have to stand there and offer your hand with patience and perseverance, showing that you care, showing that they can trust you, that they can rely on you, it's the same as with animals, the more you try to force it the more they withdraw. This might seem an exageration, but everything starts with small steps and this is why it's such a fucking pain when you try to be the mature one, because every fucking time you get angry and just want to go on a rage you have to realize that doing so will only backfire, it won't work and just cause more troubles...